Why are mums too busy to pause?

Oct 5, 2022 | Wellness


Hands up if you are always busy.

Hands up if you never have enough time.

Hands up if life is hectic.

Are you ready for a controversial statement? There is always enough time for what is important. The problem is, we, mums in particular, insist on filling time doing stuff.

Filling the time by being the housekeeper, the personal assistant, the cook, the taxi driver and many more things. Not to mention also going to work! No wonder mums are always busy.

I must admit, that mum used to be me. My day would start as soon as I got up trying to satisfy the demands of my family and my day wouldn’t end until I was lying in my bed, exhausted.

Then I said no more.

I realised it was up to me how I spent my time. Time is precious.

However, it’s easy to waste time. You may be a slave to your never-ending to-do list, a social media scroller, a Netflix fan or a perfectionist. The list goes on. But is it making you happy? Is it necessary? Are you focusing on what is actually important?

Think of time as money. You wouldn’t willingly throw away a £5 or £10 note? But wasting 5 or 10 minutes isn’t a problem?

Mum, Maria Andreas Newman

I would like you to think more seriously about how you use your time. I invite you to decide to be less busy so that you can get more done. I encourage you to focus on what is important instead of the trivial stuff.

Stop just doing and instead decide what life is all about for you. What do you want your life to look like? What are your goals? Where are you going?

It all starts with having time which means being less busy.

But how?

Throw away your to-do list

Okay, so you don’t have to literally throw away your to-do list but cross off all the things that you know you will not do, that are not important or that you keep on saving until tomorrow. Then make life easier and less hectic by deciding what you could do each day.

Stop insisting on doing everything yourself

I know that you’re amazing but that doesn’t mean that you can’t ask for help. Decide what you need help with and then ask or even tell! Unless you’re a hermit, you will have family and friends who you could ask.

Give yourself a break

Life will always feel difficult and hard unless you give yourself a break. Be kind to yourself. Nurture your self-compassion. Give yourself some me-time. It’s not selfish and you do deserve it.

Start on the right foot

You’re more likely to have a good day if you get up with that intention. For that to happen, you need to have a morning routine that works for you and gets you feeling energized and positive. 

Always wind down

If you want to have a good night’s sleep then create the habit that allows that to happen. Start to wind down at the same time every night, switch off tech by a certain time and avoid anything that winds you up

You don’t have to be busy. It is your choice. You could pause, if you wanted to. It’s your choice. It’s time to choose what is right for you and what will make life feel easier and less like you’re getting swept along by the dramas of the day.

Are you ready to pause?

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