Is it time to release the person you were meant to be?
For the past year, I have been dealing with something that feels like it will never end. It feels like no matter what action I take, it doesn’t resolve the issue.
It involves one of my children and because it is personal to them I am not going to share what it is.
I love being a mum and yet there are some bits which I really don’t like.
Why?
It’s simple, it’s the bits that make me feel uncomfortable and are challenging.
As a mum, I naturally want to solve any problems my children have because I want them to be happy. I hate seeing them battling with uncomfortable feelings and not knowing how to overcome what is going on for them.
What I have learnt is that I cannot force a resolution. As they grow older, they need to find the solution for themselves. Otherwise, they’ll always expect me to be there to save the day.
They also need to learn for themselves so that they develop the life skills they need. Plus, I don’t necessarily have the solution that is best for them.
This is so tough.
So what can I do?
Be there for them and create a loving and safe environment for them so they can feel free to be themselves, make mistakes and vent went necessary.
Every day is a school day and a constant reminder that I need to focus on being the mum I want to be instead of allowing my thoughts and emotions to derail that.
What I want to say to you is, in life it is up to us to be the individuals we want to be. It starts right now. It’s not about waiting until you’ve got the job you want or you’re in the relationship you desire.
All of that is in your external environment. That is not what is going to make you happy.
Life starts from the inside out.
Decide who you want to be and live like that person now. That is what will make you happy and allow you to be present so that you can enjoy life.
Acknowledge who is important to you
Take the time to determine who is important to you. What type of a relationship do you want with them? How would you like to be to have that?
Remember, it’s not about how you want them to be. The only person’s behaviour that we are responsible for is our own.
Live by your values
When we live in alignment with our values, life feels easier and life flows. It’s when we’re living out of alignment that life feels difficult and challenging.
What are your values and how are you living by them?
Determine your goals
When you know what you’re trying to achieve in life, you can then decide the type of person you need to be to achieve those goals. It’s not about waiting until you’ve done it. Be that person now.
Decide how you want to live
This is a big one and may take the most time. Once you know how you want to live you can then identify the changes you need to make to be that person now.
Becoming the person you want to be is a journey. It takes time. The sooner you let go and allow the quicker your life will change. It will take practice and there will be times when you fall back into old habits. Just pause, reset and restart.
Who do you want to be?
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