What others think of you is none of your business

May 18, 2022 | Random stuff

Maria Newman

You’re not alone. We all worry about what others think. But what if I told you it was unnecessary. What if I told you that your time would be better spent focused on what you thought?

The only person you need to satisfy is yourself. It all starts with you. If you can be comfortable in your skin then life will feel easier. You will feel more confident. You will feel stronger. You will be happier.

When I had my corporate job, what others thought of me influenced what I did. The way I behaved, the way I performed and the way I spoke. Of course it did, I wanted to do a good job and progress in the company.

What I didn’t appreciate was, everyone sees life through their own lens. From their own perspective based on their life experiences.

But as humans, we have this need to fit in and be part of the tribe because otherwise we might be rejected and risk not surviving! So you see, we are programmed to be aware of what others think of us.

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However, the world has evolved. Just because we don’t ‘fit in’ doesn’t mean we will not survive. 

You have everything you need to get to where you want to go. You just need to trust yourself and have the courage to be you.

The truth is, what others think of you is none of your business. We spend far too much time worrying about what others think rather than focusing on ourselves. Wouldn’t it be better to use that time and energy to focus on what we think, what we’re doing and where we want to go?

Getting to that point takes being self-aware. Being able to catch yourself when your focus goes to what will not serve you, like worrying about what others think.

Here are some steps that will help you to become more self-aware and determine what you want for yourself instead of worrying about what others think. 

Understand why

When you find yourself being preoccupied with what others may think, ask yourself why. Just knowing why you are dwelling on what others think will tell you more about yourself and how you see life.

Find your trigger

Is someone pushing your buttons or triggering you? The bad news is, that says more about you than them. They are your triggers. The good news is, you can do something about resolving them.

Where does it come from

What beliefs are you holding onto that you need to let go of? What are you telling yourself that is holding you back? What thoughts are you thinking that are not true?

Change the story

If your concern with what others are thinking is because you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough then it’s time to change that. It’s up to you to change the way you talk to yourself and it’s up to you to believe in yourself.


Repeat, repeat, repeat

Like with everything that is new, practice makes progress. Before something can become automatic it needs to be practised. So repeat, repeat and repeat until it is automatic.

So, I encourage you to break the habit of being concerned with what others may think and start focusing on what you think. You will then see how your reality will change and your life will become better.

Are you worrying about what others think?


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