Life can throw all sorts of curveballs at us and each one has the power to shake up our world.

This wobble happens because your foundation, your sense of self, feels unstable. And let’s be honest, standing strong on shaky ground? That’s impossible. 

So, how do you stabilise yourself?

How do you rebuild a strong foundation that lets you feel grounded and secure, regardless of where life takes you? 

The answer lies in reconnecting with who you are and understanding what brings you joy, peace and purpose.

Doing this inner work is essential and it’s one I guide my clients through every day.

So how do you strengthen your sense of self especially when you’re standing at life’s crossroads?

Reflect on What Makes You, You

When navigating a shift in life, it’s easy to lose touch with who you are.

Perhaps you’re returning to work and unsure how your old self fits into this new life or maybe retirement has you questioning what you’ll do without the daily routine you once had. 

Take a moment to reflect on what made you happy before this change. What brought you joy, peace or a sense of achievement? 

These are the things that define you. Your identity isn’t tied to your job or relationship status. It’s rooted in your values, passions and strengths. 

In my coaching sessions, I often guide clients to revisit memories of a time when they felt their best. This simple reflection sparks a reconnection with their authentic self and it’s an important step toward rediscovering the unique person they already are.

Embrace any ‘Crossroads’ as a New Beginning

Standing at a crossroads in life isn’t easy.

It can be a mixture of excitement, fear and confusion.

However, it’s also an opportunity for a fresh start. By viewing this moment as a chance to rebuild rather than an end, you open yourself up to growth.

When working with clients, I see first-hand how redefining this period as a new beginning empowers them to step into a stronger version of themselves.

You aren’t starting from scratch, you’re building upon everything you’ve learned. Embracing this perspective can shift your mindset from fear to curiosity.

Recognise the Importance of Self-Esteem and Self-Worth

Our self-esteem often takes a hit during major transitions. Perhaps your job defined a large part of who you were or your role in the family has changed as your children have grown. 

Without these identities, it’s natural to question your value. However, true self-esteem doesn’t depend on external titles or roles. It’s an intrinsic part of who you are. 

Rebuilding self-esteem involves recognising your worth, which exists independently of what you do or who you’re with. I work with clients to silence their inner critic and strengthen their self-worth and watching their confidence grow as they realise their true value is incredibly rewarding. 

Self-worth becomes your compass at life’s crossroads, helping you make decisions that align with who you truly are. 

Set Small, Meaningful Goals

Life changes can feel overwhelming and setting small achievable goals can help ground you. 

Think of these goals as stepping stones, each one leading you closer to a stronger foundation and a clearer sense of self. These goals don’t need to be monumental. They can be as simple as spending time doing things you love or reconnecting with a forgotten hobby. 

Setting and achieving these small goals builds momentum and it reminds you of your resilience. 

I encourage clients to set personal goals that reignite their passion and help them rebuild confidence. As they achieve each one, they gain a sense of control and see their identity re-emerge in a new and empowered form.