Mums, life doesn’t have to be busy
I don’t have to tell you that life feels busy. From the moment we get up to the moment we go to sleep, it can feel like we’re on a hamster wheel. Trapped by being busy. Focused on ticking off the items on our to-do list, wanting to be everything to everyone and never stopping to take a breath because there is always something that needs to be done.
However, you do have a choice, even if you choose not to believe it. I’d like you to take a moment to consider how you’d like your life to be. Give yourself permission to press pause, if only temporarily, and see in full colour with the volume turned up what you’d hope life would be like.
Are visualizing yourself still rushing all the time feeling stressed and as if there is never enough time?
Or, have you decided to invest your time in doing what matters and being with people who matter?
If you’re craving the ability to start balancing life here are my 5 tips that will help you get there.
Create healthy boundaries
But why bother I hear you ask?
If you don’t know what your boundaries are then what is stopping you from being busy 24/7? It’s just about deciding for yourself what is acceptable and what isn’t and then, just as importantly, sharing them with others.
Having boundaries in place stops us from being constantly on the go. It reminds us to stop and to focus on what matters.
Focus on the essentials
Are you trying to focus on too much?
I’m like a magpie, I’m attracted to new shiny objects, but in my case new projects. I love getting involved. The problem is trying to do too much actually slows us down. We’d make more progress if we limited what we focused on.
If you don’t believe me get a copy of Essentialism by Greg McKeown. He promotes the idea of focusing on the vital few rather than the trivial many.
So tell me, how do you feel when you’re trying to juggle lots of tasks? Stressed, under pressure and very busy? What are the consequences? You’re more likely to make mistakes.
How would it feel to just focus on what’s really important? The vital few.
Remove the unnecessary
Do you love a to-do list? Is it a manageable list or is it never-ending?
As women, we’re great at trying to do everything because obviously everything needs to be done. But does it?
Look at your to-do list and be honest. Is every item on the list really necessary? Does it have to be done today? Does it have to be done at all? Stop adding unnecessary things to your to-do list.
My challenge to you is to cull your to-do list. Be honest and disciplined and remove the unnecessary.
Share the load
Do you prefer not to share the load because you think you can do it better?
I’ve always been very independent and proud of the fact that I’ll try and do most things. But then I realised that that’s not what matters. In life good enough is good enough.
Sharing the load isn’t a sign of weakness. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Plus it allows you to focus on what you’re good at.
It’s time to start sharing the load so that you can get some time back.
How good are you at practising self-compassion?
Are you being kind to yourself? Are you talking to yourself in the same way you’d talk to a friend? Or do you find that you regularly beat yourself up with a stick? Do you find that your inner critic has a field day whenever things go wrong or if you’re about to do something that’s new and filled with uncertainty?
My inner critic has a name, she’s called Vera. I know that when she starts talking it’s a trigger to show myself some compassion.
It’s about being kind to ourselves. Being our biggest fans and using language that supports us. Instead of focusing on the downfalls and perceived inadequacies refocus your attention on your greatness.
Is it time that you silenced your inner critic?
You see, life doesn’t have to be busy. I invite you to exercise your right to decide what is best for you. You can and should say no without feeling guilty. What your reality looks like is in your hands. If it’s time for you to be less busy then make that promise to yourself today and keep taking the right action to make it happen.
Are you ready to stop being busy?
If you need some help getting started then take a look at my book, ‘Busy! The working mum’s guide to confidently walking life’s tightrope’.
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