Knocked down by life? 3 simple steps to regain your confidence and get back up
I really didn’t know what to expect.
I thought I was the same person. I was wrong.
Walking back into the same office and seeing the same people felt different.
I felt unsure. I felt uncertain. I felt like I didn’t belong.
Before I left, I was self-assured and knew exactly how things worked.
And now. Well, I felt like I was a stranger. Not knowing where to start first and not wanting to interrupt everyone else who seemed far too busy anyway.
Plus, I should know what I’m doing. Right?
That was how I felt on my first day back at work after maternity leave. A square peg in a round hole.
I used to be so confident. And now, not so much.
The worst part was that because I was out of practice I’d forgotten lots of things that I could easily recall before. This left me questioning myself.
It was uncomfortable. I couldn’t remember feeling like this before.
When you experience a big change, a life event, your confidence will get knocked. Life as you know it changes.
It might be all of a sudden. Or, similar to me, it may be gradual.
Our confidence comes from being comfortable with ourselves and the situation we’re in.
The moment you start doubting yourself and questioning yourself is the moment when you start to lose your confidence. The uncertainty is what will stop you. You’ll choose to feel safe and hide rather than stand your ground and be seen.
Ultimately, this will affect how you show up and how you shape your reality.
I’ve learnt that it doesn’t have to be that way.
You will not be able to remove all uncertainty from your life however the one thing you do have is control of your thoughts, the way you feel and how you behave. What you think about yourself is so powerful and for me is the foundation of confidence.
Here are 3 steps that will help you get your confidence back.
Get comfortable being you
Having unshakeable confidence means getting really comfortable with who you are. You are unique and you are perfect just the way you are. You do not need to change to fit in. You just need to appreciate you.
The question is, do you really know yourself?
If the answer is no, then start by understanding what your values are. These are what drive your decisions and determine how you feel about what happens to you in life.
Stop worrying about what others think
We spend far too long worrying about what others think. When in truth what others think is none of our business and most of the time they’re too busy with other things to be thinking about us anyway.
When you find yourself focusing on this, get curious. Ask yourself why you’re bothered. Remember the thoughts you have are trying to tell you something about yourself. How is what you’re thinking going to help you?
Let go of comparisonitis
The good news is that whatever we see in others we already have in ourselves. So, if you’re looking at someone else wishing you were more like them, you can be. If that’s what you really want.
Maybe it’s a skill, an attribute or an ability that someone else has. That’s great. What action are you going to take so that you can develop that skill, nurture that attribute or gain that ability?
We are all confident beings, it’s just that sometimes life makes us want to hide. By taking action you can regain the confidence that is within you so that you can live life with certainty. All it takes is understanding what is going on for you inside so that you can deal with it and move on in life.
Are you ready to flex your confidence muscle?
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