3 reasons why self-talk is your biggest superpower

It’s not what others say to you, but what you say to yourself that will have the biggest impact on how you live your life.

The question is.

How do you want to live your life?

Do you want to live your life second-guessing your actions, decisions and choices, forever imprisoned by self-doubt and the weight of external expectations?

Or.

Do you aspire to live a life accepting that challenges will come your way but knowing, deep down, that you possess the inner strength and resilience to confront and conquer these challenges?

Your self-talk, the internal narrative that runs like a constant stream through your mind, holds the key to your answer. It can either be a staunch ally, reinforcing your self-belief and guiding you toward your goals, or a relentless adversary, sowing the seeds of doubt and apprehension at every turn.

But understanding your self-talk gives you great power. It gives you great insight into yourself and gives you the ability to make better decisions.

The key is to listen.

Then you will hear what is actually being said.

How are you feeling?

Your self-talk will give you a clue as to how you are feeling. When all is going great, your self-talk will become your cheerleader that confirms how awesome you are and how amazing life is.

But what happens when things are not great?

Your self-talk becomes someone else. Maybe moody Margaret, desperate Danny or whiny Wilma.

You’ve been triggered and the result is a negative emotion.

That’s your cue to get curious. Become a detective and understand why. Then take the time to deal with what you find.

It’s about the present

Your self-talk is triggered by something that is happening now but will be influenced by your story, which is an accumulation of what you have experienced in life so far.

So my question to you is, when your self-talk starts, what has influenced it?

What experience, whether yours or someone else’s, is the reason for the rant?

It’s time to decide whether that experience, that has given your self-talk the ammunition, is serving you.

If the answer is no, it’s time to do the work to let go of the emotional hold that experience has on you so that you can see it as a learning experience.