3 reasons why self-talk is your biggest superpower

Sep 20, 2023 | Wellness


It’s not what others say to you, but what you say to yourself that will have the biggest impact on how you live your life.

The question is.

How do you want to live your life?

Do you want to live your life second-guessing your actions, decisions and choices, forever imprisoned by self-doubt and the weight of external expectations?


Do you aspire to live a life accepting that challenges will come your way but knowing, deep down, that you possess the inner strength and resilience to confront and conquer these challenges?


Your self-talk, the internal narrative that runs like a constant stream through your mind, holds the key to your answer. It can either be a staunch ally, reinforcing your self-belief and guiding you toward your goals, or a relentless adversary, sowing the seeds of doubt and apprehension at every turn.

But understanding your self-talk gives you great power. It gives you great insight into yourself and gives you the ability to make better decisions.

The key is to listen.

Then you will hear what is actually being said.

How are you feeling?

Your self-talk will give you a clue as to how you are feeling. When all is going great, your self-talk will become your cheerleader that confirms how awesome you are and how amazing life is.

But what happens when things are not great?

Your self-talk becomes someone else. Maybe moody Margaret, desperate Danny or whiny Wilma.

You’ve been triggered and the result is a negative emotion.

That’s your cue to get curious. Become a detective and understand why. Then take the time to deal with what you find.

It’s about the present

Your self-talk is triggered by something that is happening now but will be influenced by your story, which is an accumulation of what you have experienced in life so far.

So my question to you is, when your self-talk starts, what has influenced it?

What experience, whether yours or someone else’s, is the reason for the rant?

It’s time to decide whether that experience, that has given your self-talk the ammunition, is serving you.

If the answer is no, it’s time to do the work to let go of the emotional hold that experience has on you so that you can see it as a learning experience.

It’s all about your fears

Your self-talk will highlight your fears. That’s not to say your fears should hold you back. Knowing your fears means you have information which will help you to make better decisions.

You can decide whether it is a fear that you need to face and are ready to face it or not.

It is up to you.

You shouldn’t be scared of your fears. It’s only natural to have fears. But you don’t have to let your fears rule your world.

Identity, fear
So you see, your self-talk is one of your biggest superpowers because when you take the time to understand it, it will unlock the door to knowing yourself so much better. And when you take the time to know yourself better you will then have the ability to make better decisions that ultimately serve you.

Do you listen to your self-talk?


You might also like to read, Five Steps to Finding Yourself Again and Regaining Your Personal Identity

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