Your inner critic is controlling your life: 3 actions that will give you back control

Jun 26, 2024 | Wellness | 0 comments

Inner critic

It’s not the voices of others that will shape your life. It’s the conversations you have with yourself, your inner critic.

So, let me ask you this:

How do you truly wish to live?

Do you want to navigate life constantly second-guessing your actions, decisions and choices, trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and overwhelmed by the expectations of others?


Do you want to live a life where you accept that challenges will happen however you know that you have the inner strength and resilience to overcome any obstacle?

Your self-talk, you know the one, that incessant internal dialogue that flows through your mind, holds the answer. It can either be your greatest ally, bolstering your self-belief and steering you towards your goals or your most formidable challenger, sowing seeds of doubt and fear constantly.

Burnt out

However, there’s immense power in understanding your self-talk. It offers insights into your inner world and equips you with the ability to make more informed decisions. 

The key is to listen.

When you truly listen, you’ll hear what’s actually being said.

How Are You Feeling?

Your inner critic and the way you talk to yourself provides clues about your current emotional state. When life is smooth sailing, your self-talk acts as your personal cheerleader, affirming your awesomeness and the wonderfulness of life.

But what about when things take a turn for the worse? 

Your inner critic transforms into someone else entirely, perhaps moaning Margaret, desperate Danny or whining Wilma.

You’ve been triggered, resulting in a surge of negative emotions.

This is your cue to get curious. Become a detective of your own mind and understand the ‘why’ behind these feelings. Then, take the necessary time to address what you discover.

Living in the Present

Your self-talk is sparked by current events and heavily influenced by your life story, which is an accumulation of your experiences so far. 

So, my question to you is, when your self-talk begins, what is influencing it?

What past experience, whether your own or someone else’s, is fuelling this internal chatter?

It’s time to assess whether that experience, which fuels your self-talk, is serving you.

If the answer is no, it’s time to do the inner work to release the emotional grip of that experience, allowing you to view it as a learning opportunity.

Understanding Your Fears

Your self-talk will bring your fears to the forefront. This doesn’t mean your fears should paralyse you. Recognising your fears provides you with valuable information to make better decisions.

You can choose whether it’s a fear you need to confront and are ready to face, or not.

The choice is yours.

You shouldn’t be afraid of your fears. It’s natural to have them. You don’t have to let them dominate your life.

So, you can allow your self-talk to emerge as one of your greatest superpowers. When you invest time in understanding it, it unlocks a deeper knowledge of yourself. With this self-awareness, you gain the ability to make decisions that genuinely serve you.

Forgive, identity, Mum

Can you see the value in listening to your inner critic? 


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