Why Some Problems Feel Impossible to Solve (And What To Do Instead)
Have you ever stared at a problem and thought, I have absolutely no idea what to do about this?
Your mind goes round in circles. Every option feels wrong. Every decision feels risky. The more you think about it, the bigger it seems to become.
So you decide now is not the right time.
You tell yourself you’ll deal with it later. Yet it lingers in the background, draining your energy because, unconsciously, you know at some point you’ll have to face it.
Many problems that feel impossible are not actually impossible at all.
They just feel that way because in that moment you’re overwhelmed, exhausted, or carrying too much responsibility.
And when you’re used to holding everything together as part of everyday life, that pressure can make even small problems feel enormous.
When a Problem Takes Over Your Headspace
When something is weighing on your mind, it rarely stays neatly contained in one area of life.
It creeps into everything.
You’re making dinner and thinking about it.
You’re driving somewhere and replaying conversations in your head.
You wake up at 3am and there it is again.
Your brain tries to solve the entire situation all at once.
No wonder it feels impossible.
My clients tell me that life feels like they’re wading through thick treacle. They’re trying to live normally and yet spend weeks, sometimes months, going over the same issue, which is making them feel stuck in life.
They’ve analysed it from every angle. They’ve spoken to friends. They’ve tried to “figure it out”.
Yet the problem remains.
Not because they aren’t capable.
Because they are too close to the situation to see it clearly.
What’s Really Keeping You Stuck Here
There’s a common pattern that shows up when people are trying to solve a problem.
They believe there must be one correct solution.
The right answer.
The perfect decision.
The option that makes everything fall into place.
That pressure can make any situation feel overwhelming.
If the perfect answer doesn’t appear, the brain assumes there is no answer at all.
In reality, life rarely works that way.
Most problems are solved by making progress, not by waiting for perfection.
To do this, you need to look at the problem differently.
That alone can unlock possibilities that hadn’t even been considered.
A Different Way to Approach Your Problems
Imagine stepping back from the situation for a moment.
Instead of asking yourself:
“How do I fix this?”
You ask a slightly different question:
“What makes this a problem?”
Because sometimes the real issue isn’t the situation itself.
It might be the expectations you’ve placed on yourself.
It might be the fear of making the wrong decision.
It might even be the belief that you must handle everything alone.
Once that layer becomes visible, the problem suddenly looks very different.
And when the problem changes shape, the solution becomes easier to find.
Five Ways to Start Solving the Problem in Front of You
If something in your life currently feels impossible to resolve, this will help.
Step Back Before You Step Forward
When emotions are running high, it’s difficult to think clearly.
Create some distance from the situation. Go for a walk. Write your thoughts down. Talk it through with someone you trust.
Space creates clarity.
Ask a Better Question
The questions you ask yourself shape the answers you receive.
Instead of asking “Why is this happening to me?” try asking:
“What part of this situation can I influence?”
That small change can move your thinking in a completely new direction.
Focus on the Next Small Step
Trying to solve everything at once creates overwhelm.
Focus on the next step, not the entire journey.
Progress often begins with something small.
Challenge the Story in Your Head
Sometimes the biggest obstacle is the narrative you’ve created around the problem.
“I can’t change this.”
“There’s no way out.”
“This always happens to me.”
Pause and question those thoughts. They may not be as true as they feel.
Stop Carrying It Alone
One of the most powerful things you can do is speak to someone who is not emotionally involved.
Whether this is a family member, a friend or a coach.
In my sessions, I guide clients through a process that helps them untangle the situation, challenge unhelpful thinking patterns, and identify practical steps forward. Often they arrive feeling completely stuck. By the end of the conversation they have clarity, direction, and renewed confidence.
Not because I give them the answers.
Because I help them see possibilities they couldn’t see before.
The Breakthrough Often Comes From a New Perspective
Problems rarely disappear overnight.
What can change very quickly is how you think about them.
When your thinking shifts, new ideas appear.
New options appear.
A path forward appears.
So if something in your life currently feels impossible to solve, pause for a moment and ask yourself this:
Am I trying to find the perfect solution, or am I willing to take the first step towards a better one?
Sometimes that first step is all it takes to get things moving again.
And once you start moving, solutions have a way of revealing themselves.
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