Where will you be this time next year, still busy?

As I’ve gotten older, I definitely feel like time is speeding up. A year seems to come and go in the blink of an eye. I’ve watched my children go from being helpless babies to loving yet challenging mini adults. Six years ago I left the corporate world and I’m now running my own business coaching mums and helping my clients get started.

I’m definitely not standing still, although there are times I wish life had a pause button or even a rewind button.

But what I’ve learnt is, just because you’re a mum, it doesn’t mean life has to stop.

Life may feel busy, however, you always have a choice. You get to decide what you want to do next that is best for you.

Let me tell you about Emma.

Emma is an amazing woman. She is an expert when it comes to doing the mummy juggle. She says yes to most things and most people. She wants to make sure that everyone is happy, or at least appeased!

She wants to give her children all they need and be there for them all the time. She wants a less demanding boss who doesn’t pile more and more work on her. She wants life to be simpler. But this doesn’t stop her.

Emma is exhausted. But she’s so busy she can’t stop. If she stops, she might let someone down or upset someone or worse fail and then people will judge her.

The problem is, if we don’t stop and do something different the only person who really suffers is you. But it doesn’t stop there. Eventually, this will also impact the ones you love. 

The choice is yours. You can choose to be brave and stop or you can let it play out until you physically can’t any longer.

Why not choose the stop?

Put on the breaks

It’s about giving yourself permission to stop so that you have some space to think. Constantly taking action and doing stuff doesn’t necessarily mean you’re moving in the right direction or even progressing. By stopping, you’ll be able to have a better view of what is going on.

What do you want?

When was the last time you thought about what you want? When was the last time you asked yourself questions like:

• where do I want to be this time next year?
• What are my goals?
• What do I want to achieve?
• What do I want to experience in life?

How would life be different if you really knew what you wanted?

Set some boundaries

You don’t want to risk getting back into being busy, so put some healthy boundaries in place that are acceptable to you and then share them with others. Having healthy boundaries in place is about protecting yourself and stopping you from being ‘on’ all the time.