Things will change when you change

Apr 6, 2022 | Wellness


I still have days when I really have no motivation. My focus is on what I haven’t done and what is missing. I know it’s in those moments, my negative spin, that I’m really not being helpful to myself.

But today is different. It use to take me a while to get myself out of the negative spin. To feel better. To feel like I could rather than couldn’t. Now, I can catch myself a lot quicker and then decide what’s best for me.

And let me tell you, it takes practice. Regular practice.

You know that in life we are regularly challenged and faced with obstacles. It’s during these times that we have the choice to either give up and say it’s too hard. Or accept that we may be tested but we will get through it.

When you’ve tried and tried and tried some more, then of course why wouldn’t you give up. There are only so many times you can try before it feels like it’s pointless.

However, what if by making a slight adjustment trying didn’t feel so difficult?


Whether you believe it or not, the truth is we are the ones that stand in our way. And that’s actually great news because it means you have the power to change things. After all, you just have to deal with you.

An obstacle will only stop you if that’s what you decide. Although it may not feel like it, we do have choice. It really is up to us how we view our world and therefore what we do. It will only stop you if you decide that is the outcome you want.

If something feels like it isn’t working then take a moment to get curious. To take the time to really understand what is going on. If it is important to you then you will have time. And then, decide what your next best move is.

Maybe this will help you.

Know your obstacle

Understand what you’re actually dealing with instead of what you think you’re dealing with. The hard truth is, it’s usually about us and what’s going on for us as opposed to the thing we think it is.

Acknowledge your thinking

Your thinking can either hold you back or propel you forward. So what’s going on inside your head? Is your inner critic sending you down a rabbit’s warren? Take the time to write down all the things that you’re thinking to help make sense of what’s going on for you. Then decide what is true instead of being distracted by what is false.

Accept your feelings

Instead of trying to suppress how you’re feeling, let it all out. Once you’ve released those feelings you will not only have space for the good stuff but you’ll be more open to a different perspective that will serve you.

Find your desired focus

It’s normal to focus on what is wrong, so instead find what could be right for you. Who do you want to be and how can that version of you overcome your obstacle?


You can make it to the other side

And finally, believe that you will get to the other side. If you are finding this difficult just remember the challenging times that you have already overcome to prove to yourself that you are more capable than you think you are.

By taking the time to really understand yourself and what is going on for you, you may see things that were always there but until now you couldn’t see.

Remember it really is all about you and not them.

Do you want to change?


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