Meet Your Inner Critic: The Uninvited Roommate Who Never Cleans Up

May 17, 2023 | Wellness

Inner critic

Yes, meet your inner critic. You know, the little voice in your head that tells you that you’re not good enough or not smart enough? The one that never seems to take a day off and definitely never cleans up after itself? Yeah, that one.

Well, it turns out that your inner critic is kind of like an uninvited roommate who never pays rent, is very untidy and can’t help but leave dirty dishes in the sink. It can feel like they’re making a real mess inside your head. But unlike a human roommate, you can’t exactly kick your inner critic out of your head.

Your inner critic has the potential to be a thorn in your side and a pain in the butt. It has the power to make us feel anxious, insecure and just generally crappy about ourselves.

But the good news is that we don’t have to let it run the show. With a little bit of understanding and some strategies for managing it, we can learn to coexist with our inner critic without letting it take over.

Inner critic

What we need to remember is that the inner critic is just doing its job. It’s neither good nor bad. It’s just trying to keep you safe. 

That’s why understanding your inner critic and learning how to manage it is an important part of self-care and personal growth. By recognising the role of the inner critic in your life, you can take steps to challenge its negative messages and cultivate a more compassionate and positive inner voice and know when you need to turn up the volume of your inner cheerleader.

You see, by continuing to allow your inner critic to have free reign not only will it impact your mental health and well-being but it can also impact your relationships and limit you reaching your full potential.

By adopting some simple strategies you can limit the impact of your inner critic on your life, it just takes you deciding to become friends. 

Practice Self-Compassion

Your inner critic can be loud and it may feel like it is constantly bombarding you with negative self-talk. Instead of getting sucked into agreeing and adhering to whatever the thoughts are, it’s more important to be gentle and kind to ourselves.

Practising self-compassion means treating ourselves with the same care and concern that we would give to a good friend. This means acknowledging your flaws and mistakes without judgment and instead of dwelling on them focus on your positive qualities and accomplishments.

Identify the Inner Critic

It’s hard to manage something if we don’t know what it is, that’s why I’ve named my inner critic Vera and I encourage you to do the same. That way, you’ll be better able to separate your thoughts from your inner critic. You can then start to become more self-aware which will allow you to recognise when they’re speaking and identify common triggers.

Challenge Negative Self-Talk

When your inner critic starts to speak, it’s important to challenge the negative messages because the inner critic does not know the difference between reality and made up stuff. One way to do this is by questioning the evidence. Where is the real proof? Remember, just because you thought it doesn’t make it true.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness involves being fully present in the moment and observing our thoughts and feelings without judgment. This can be a powerful tool for managing the inner critic. Instead of getting caught up in the negative messaging just notice, acknowledge and decide what your next best move is.


Focus on Positive Self-Talk

It’s important to counteract the negative messages of the inner critic with positive self-talk. Although simple to say it takes constant practice. This can involve repeating affirmations, focusing on your strengths and accomplishments or simply being kind and encouraging to yourself. Over time, positive self-talk will help to build your self-esteem and reduce the power of the inner critic.

So you see, although your inner critic can feel like an unwanted guest. They are serving a purpose and trying to keep them quiet is not helpful. Instead, understand how being more aware of your inner critic can work in your favour and with time you be able to live in harmony with your inner critic, and they’ll also be less messy.

Are you ready to make friends?


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