Is there more to you than being a mummy?

Jun 9, 2021 | Wellness

Are you a mum, a wife, a sister, a friend, a business owner, an employee, the housekeeper, the cook, the organiser, the neighbour, the taxi driver?

Are you trying to be everything to everyone?

You must be tired.

Taking on all these roles is not only exhausting but it helps you avoid doing what is most important.

That is being you.

But that’s okay because you don’t have the time anyway. You’re probably so busy with everyone else that you’ve left no time for yourself!

Why is it?

Is that okay?

What would happen if you did something different?

Now, I love being a mum. For a long time, I saw it as my main role. My only role! And I’m lucky because I’m blessed to have awesome children who love me unconditionally and who ground and challenge me, daily. I love spending time with them and giving them everything they need. However, I can only do that because I also do the same for myself.


You see, I am first an individual. I am first Maria. I know that to be the best for them I need to be the best for myself. Simple yet this is not something that mums typically do.

As mums, we can live in the shadow of mum guilt. Thinking we’re being selfish if we put ourselves first. Thinking we’re not good enough. Thinking we’re not doing our best.

I would like you to give yourself permission to step out of the shadows and know it is okay to be you. Because you are good enough. Because you always do your best. And because putting yourself first is necessary. 

You see when we start our mum journey we feel like we have no choice but to put our children before ourselves. We worry about being judged. We worry about doing the right thing. We worry about being compared.

The truth is, it doesn’t have to be this way. We are all on our own journey and being a mum doesn’t mean you have to lose yourself, who you are and what you want.

Here are my 5 tips to stop you from being ‘just a mummy’

Have Me-Time

Make sure you have some me-time as part of your day, no matter how challenging this may feel. Even if it’s just a 5 minute walk or 5 minutes alone in the bathroom! You need time for yourself even if it’s just to be able to think and reflect without being interrupted.

Take care of yourself

It’s all about self-care, which doesn’t have to be expensive or fancy. It’s about embracing the simple things in life that help you to fill your cup. That helps you protect and improve your wellbeing. That reminds you to also care for yourself.

You can download my free guide ‘Why self-care is not selfish? 30 feel good for FREE habits’ from my website 

Make a list

Write down all the things you love about yourself, even if it’s the shape of your eyebrows. Not only are you good enough but you are great. Sometimes you just need to remind yourself.


Dreaming is amazing. It makes us feel good. It allows us to create without boundaries, restrictions or limitations. Dream about all the things you love. Dream about all the things you want. Dream about all the things you want to do.

Make it happen

Now you know what you want go make it happen. Yes, make a plan. Decide what steps you need to take and get started. Only you really have the power to make your dreams come true.

You see, you are more than just a mummy. You are an individual who deserves to be living the life you want.


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