Embrace the Happy Vibes: 3 Surprising Reasons You’re Not Feeling Your Best (and How to Turn That Frown Upside Down!)

Jun 21, 2023 | Wellness

I want to be happy

Ever had those moments when happiness feels like a distant dream, even though everything seems to be going well?

Well, you’re not alone.

Being happy is a state in which anyone can be.

It’s not difficult. It’s a decision.

However, the reason why happiness sometimes seems unobtainable is that we attach it to things that are not within our control!

Let me share with you the surprising reasons why you might not be feeling your best, and more importantly, some simple strategies to turn that frown upside down.

So get ready to embrace the happy vibes because we’re about to unlock the secrets to a more fulfilling and joyful life.

Attaching Happiness to a Person

Alright, let’s talk about the first sneaky reason that might be stealing away your happiness, attaching it to a person. We’ve all been guilty of this at some point, haven’t we?

We rely on someone else to be our source of happiness, our be-all and end-all. But here’s the thing, that’s a recipe for disappointment.

When we place all our hopes and dreams on one person, we’re setting ourselves up for a letdown.

Nobody, and I mean nobody, can fulfil every single one of our emotional needs. We’re human beings, complex and unique. Expecting one person to be our everything is like expecting a single ice cream flavour to satisfy all our cravings.


When we attach our happiness solely to another person, we forget about taking care of ourselves. We put their needs and wants above our own, neglecting self-care and personal growth.

But here’s the truth, self-love is not selfish. It’s essential. We need to nurture ourselves, indulge in hobbies we love, reflect on our own goals and aspirations. That’s how we grow and become the best versions of ourselves.

Breaking free from this attachment starts with self-fulfilment and independence. Understand that you are a complete individual with your own dreams and desires. It’s great to have people who support and uplift you, but don’t rely solely on them for your happiness.

You hold the key to your own happiness. Don’t hand it over to someone else. Take charge, nurture yourself and let go of those unrealistic expectations. Happiness starts within you.

Attaching Happiness to Material Things

We live in a world that bombards us with advertisements, telling us that buying the latest gadget or owning that fancy car will bring us eternal bliss.

But guess what? It’s not true.

Sure, that new shiny thing might make you feel all giddy and excited at first, but that feeling doesn’t last. It fades away faster than a Snapchat message. And what happens then? You find yourself craving the next big thing, hoping it will finally bring you the lasting joy you seek.

But it rarely does.

Breaking free from the materialistic madness starts with gratitude. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, shift your attention to what you do have.

Cultivate a sense of appreciation for the non-material aspects of life: relationships, experiences, nature’s beauty and the little moments that bring you joy.

Prioritise experiences over possessions.

Instead of chasing after the latest gadgets, invest in experiences that create memories and bring genuine happiness. Travel, explore new hobbies, connect with people and immerse yourself in meaningful activities.

It’s these experiences that truly enrich our lives and leave a lasting impact.

Remember, possessions come and go, but the moments and memories you create are what truly matter. So, don’t let material things define your happiness. Focus on what truly brings you joy and you’ll discover a whole new level of contentment and fulfilment.

Being in a Different Situation in the Future

Raise your hand if you’ve caught yourself saying, “Once I have that dream job, or that dream house, or that dream relationship, then I’ll be happy.” Don’t worry; you’re not alone. We’ve all fallen into this trap at some point.

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It’s like putting your joy on hold, thinking that it will magically arrive when the stars align in the future. But here’s the reality check, happiness is not a destination, it’s a journey. By constantly postponing happiness, we’re missing out on the beauty and joy that the present moment has to offer.

We get so caught up in chasing the future that we forget to fully appreciate and embrace the here and now. Life is happening right in front of us, and there’s so much to be grateful for and enjoy in this very moment. But if we’re always focused on what’s next, we’ll never truly experience the happiness that exists in the present.

Breaking free from this future-focused mindset is about letting go of the idea that happiness is solely dependent on external circumstances.

Happiness starts from within. It’s about finding joy in the small everyday moments, appreciating the simple pleasures and being grateful for what we have right now.

So start by practising mindfulness and fully immerse yourself in the present.

Slow down, take a deep breath and be fully present in the current situation. Engage your senses, savour the flavours, appreciate the beauty around you and embrace the people you love.

When you live in the present, you’ll find that happiness is not some distant mirage, it’s right here, within your reach.

So, embrace the journey, seize the present and make the most of every single moment. The future will come, but true happiness starts right now. Let’s turn that frown upside down and embrace the joy that’s waiting for us in the present.

It’s time to detach your happiness from external factors and embrace the power within you.

Nurture yourself, let go of material attachments and live in the present moment. Take control of your happiness and spread positive vibes. Remember, happiness is a journey that starts with you.

So, go ahead and turn that frown upside down, embrace the joy in life and make every moment count. You have the power to create a brighter and happier world.

Are you ready to accept now so that you can be happy?


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