5 Things You Can Do This Week If You’re Fed Up With the Way Life Feels
You’ve already decided something needs to change.
The real issue is something else.
You’ve had the thought more than once: “It’s time to take action,”
That thought pops into your head:
When you stay quiet and wish you’d spoken.
When you say yes, then feel irritated about it later.
When you look at your life and think, how did I end up here?
You’re already past needing more convincing.
What’s actually frustrating you is this:
You still haven’t done anything about it. Well, not properly.
You’ve thought about it. You’ve said you’ll do something. You’ve even had moments of motivation.
And then life carries on, and so do you.
That’s the bit that annoys you.
Because now it’s not just about your confidence, using your voice or putting yourself first. It’s about the fact that you can’t follow through, and you feel stuck.
That’s what needs to change.
You don’t need some grand plan, and you definitely don’t need more thinking.
Here’s where to start this week.
Be honest about what you’re actually avoiding
What we think the problem is, is rarely the case. It’s about really understanding what’s going on.
If you say you want to lose weight, what are you avoiding?
If you say you want more confidence, what are you not doing?
If you say you want to speak up, where are you staying silent?
There’s always something underneath.
Most people don’t go there because, on a conscious level, they don’t realise that that’s not the problem. And at an unconscious level, they don’t feel like they want to go there.
So they stay at the level that feels acceptable and safe.
When I work with clients, we slowly uncover the real issue. Because until you face what’s really going on, you’ll keep solving the wrong problem.
The first step is to identify the real problem and then write it down.
Stop negotiating with yourself
You’ll notice a pattern which sounds like this:This is the pattern:
“I’ll start Monday.”
“I just need to feel more ready.”
“I’ll do it when things calm down.”
Because you’ve said it, you then believe it and that is why nothing changes.
At some point, you have to decide:
Am I doing this or not?
It’s time to be decisive.
For example:
“I’m speaking up in that meeting.”
“I’m saying no when I mean no.”
“I’m leading my life.”
No more debating.
It’s at that moment that you are allowing yourself to move forward and become unstuck.
Make it small enough that you actually do it
Many people think they have to take a massive leap, which ultimately is overwhelming and leads to failure.
I don’t need to tell you that the path to success is about taking small, consistent steps, because this is what builds the momentum that leads to your success.
It might look like:
Saying one honest thing, not becoming a different person overnight.
Setting one boundary, not fixing every relationship.
Changing one small habit at a time.
Do it even when you don’t feel like it
You won’t feel motivated every time.
You won’t feel confident before you speak.
You won’t feel ready before you start.
You won’t feel disciplined every day.
Do it anyway. The thought of doing it is usually more frightening than just getting on with it.
Because every time you don’t, you reinforce your old patterns
And every time you do, even when it feels uncomfortable, you start to change that.
This is a big part of the work I do. It’s not just deciding what needs to happen, it’s about making sure you actually do it. That’s where the change comes from.
Look at the evidence at the end of the week
This is about seeing the evidence of your progress, no matter the size.
What did you actually do?
Did you follow through?
Did you avoid it again?
Did you make progress or stay the same?
Focus on the facts.
The women who change are the ones who are honest. Because once you can see it clearly, you can do something about it.
If you’re tired of going round in circles
Then don’t read this, agree with it, and carry on as you are.
Pick one thing from this and do it this week.
And if you know you’re someone who starts and stops, talks yourself out of things, or needs that push to actually follow through — get support.
That’s exactly what I offer.
Ready to go from doubting to decisive?
If you’re done second-guessing yourself and want to start taking clear, consistent action, my From Doubting to Decisive workshop is for you.
This isn’t about motivation. It’s about getting out of your head and into action.
During the workshop, you’ll:
Get clear on what you actually want (not what you think you should want)
Understand what’s been keeping you stuck
Decide your next steps and follow through
You won’t leave with more to think about. You’ll leave knowing exactly what you’re doing next.
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