Do you suffer from comparisonitis?
It’s very common to compare yourself to those around you. We all do it. For you, it might be what you look like. It might be how well you’re doing in your career. It might be how good you are as a mother.
But why? What is the point? How is it helpful?
The truth is, it’s pointless, not helpful and a waste of energy.
You see, as individuals we are all unique. We all have our own path to follow. We all have different wants and needs. Plus everyone’s history is different.
This means that comparing yourself to another is not possible. You’re not comparing like with like. More like apples with oranges, both fruit but different.
The thing is, we seem to enjoy dwelling in the ‘lack’ of our lives, which comparing helps us see, and this makes it difficult to acknowledge the abundance in our lives and how amazing we are.
Tell me, how often do you give yourself a compliment?
Never, sometimes, every day?
I know you’re thinking why would I give myself a compliment?
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. It is your responsibility to be your own cheerleader. To be the first one to say how great you are. And to shout from the rooftops why you’re amazing. Even if it isn’t considered the ‘done thing’!
It’s about changing your focus to help cure you of comparisonitis. To stop looking to the outside world and instead bring the focus back to you.
External validation is nice but the only opinion about you that counts is your own. Why wait for someone else to say ‘well done’, great job’ or ‘you look great’ when you can say it to yourself whenever you want.
So how can we stop? It’s all about getting to know, like and appreciate how amazing you actually are. Here are my 5 tips.
Make a list of all the things that you are grateful for in your life no matter the size or value. When you start focusing on what you have to be grateful for you will see all the amazing things that are already present in your life.
Acknowledge your achievements
Make a list of everything you have achieved no matter the size or value. To get this far you have already achieved a lot. So each and every item on your list is worth celebrating.
You have many strengths
Make a list of all your strengths. All the things you know you can do. You have many but you may have forgotten what they are. There’s so much you can do with the strengths you have. The potential that you could unlock instead of keeping yourself stuck.
Know you’re great
Make a list of all the reasons why you’re great. Yes, you are great and you need to know and acknowledge why. Not only will this give you inner confidence but a solid foundation to know that you can achieve anything.
Have many wishes
Make a list of all of your wishes and then take action to make them come true. Rather than comparing yourself to others go make your dreams come true. Inspire others, by your actions, to do the same.
So, the good news is, you have the power to stop. The power to stop comparing yourself with others and you do this by replacing it with something even better. Instead, start to love who you are, where you’ve come from and where you want to go.
When you realise how wonderful you truly are, you will also notice how the external world will change for you. How you will view life differently. How great things will happen.
Are you suffering from comparisonitis?
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