Do you know what really matters to you?

Jul 7, 2021 | Wellness

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When I first became a mum, my world revolved around my daughter. I’d been given this beautiful gift which I promised I would nurture, protect and love.  

I was aware of her every breath. I wanted to fulfill her every need. I wanted to make sure she was always safe. After all, I’d become a mum, she was my responsibility and this was my duty.

The problem was, with time, I’d forgotten about myself and I hadn’t even realised it. I was a busy working mum. I had not time! Now, you may think. But that’s okay. You’re a mum. Your children are supposed to be your number one.

Well, that’s what I thought. I now think differently.

The thing is, the most important person in your life is you.

This is true for everyone, no matter who you are. After all, it’s your life. You are the lead actor, no one else. The stage is yours. Only you can decide how the story plays out.

If nothing else, just remember you are a role model to your children. If you don’t think you are important enough in your life, what are you telling them?

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But what about the judgement from others?

It’s not about what other people think. It’s not about what other people say. It’s not about what other people do.

What matters is you.  

It’s really easy to get sucked into what is going on outside when what matters is what’s going on inside us.

What we think.

What we do.

What we say.

That’s what matters.

It matters, because if you are happy with yourself. If you are speaking to yourself with compassion. If you are able to speak to others from a place of kindness. If you’re doing what makes you happy. If you’re living in the now. Then you’ll know that anything is possible.

I know life can seem hectic but that is our choice And so, it’s easy to become disconnected from who we are and what we want. We get swept along with life and forget to stop and acknowledge what we have, what we want and where we’re going next.

Instead, we find ourselves, just going with it. Over time, we become stuck on the treadmill of life and we can’t find the stop button.

However, life is for living and to do that we need to be conscious of who we are. We need to be conscious of what is going on. We need to be conscious of where we want to go.

However, it’s not always easy to stop. And when you do, then what’s the next step?

My advice is simple, if you think you’re important you will find the time. However, here are some suggestions to get you started.


Write a list of ten things you are grateful for. This will show you what is important to you. This will remind you of what is important to you. Then it’s up to you to ensure you have more of it in your life.


Understand what your values are. Knowing your values helps you to make decisions and take action. When we make a decision or take action that is in alignment with our values, then life flows in the right way for us. Life becomes easy.

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Write a list of what you’re passionate about. What you love doing. Then make time for it in your life. You will always have the time and energy for the things that make your heart sing and put a smile on your face. 

Send a letter

Write a letter from your future self describing the wonderful life you are living. This is such a powerful exercise that will open your eyes to what you really want life to be like instead of what you think life should be like. The key here is to let the pen do the work, without limitations or restrictions.


And final, write a list of three wishes that you’d like to make come true and then go make them happen by taking the first step.

Life is what you make it. If you know what matters then creating the life you want and living the life you want is so much easier.

Do you know what really matters?


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