Always Prioritising Others is Why Life Has Lost Its Spark—Here’s How to Reclaim It
Let’s be honest, you’re always putting everyone else first. Your kids, your partner, your family and your friends.
It’s second nature because that’s what you do.
And yet, where does that leave you?
Exhausted. Frustrated. Wondering when it’s finally going to be your turn.
I see this all the time with my clients. High-achieving women juggling work, family, and life’s constant curveballs. They tell me they’ll focus on themselves later. When the kids are older. When work calms down. When life feels a little less chaotic.
Spoiler alert, that time never magically arrives. You have to claim it.
And it starts with asking one simple question: ‘What do I need?’
Why This Question Changes Everything
When was the last time you really asked yourself this? Not in a fleeting, passing thought between meetings and school runs. When did you properly sit with it and listen to the answer?
Not knowing what you need isn’t a failing. It’s a sign you’ve been too busy focusing on everyone else. The good news is, you can change that.
There is no better time to do this than now.
Right now, life might feel overwhelming, noisy and packed with obligations. And yet, you get to decide how you want this moment to be.
5 Ways to Put Yourself Back in the Picture
Here are five practical steps to start focusing on you without the guilt.
Check-in with yourself daily
Before you launch into another packed day, take five minutes to ask: What do I need today? More rest? A moment of peace? A workout? Time to think? The first step to change is awareness.
Set boundaries that serve you
You don’t have to say ‘yes’ to every request. Protecting your time and energy isn’t selfish, it’s essential. As Brené Brown says, ‘Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.’ Start small and build from there.
Drop the ‘all or nothing’ mindset
Self-care isn’t a luxury spa day, it’s the tiny decisions you make daily. A walk, a deep breath or saying no to something that drains you. Progress, not perfection.
Remember, asking for help is a strength
You don’t have to do it all alone. Delegate. Share the load. Let go of the ‘I should be able to handle everything’ belief. As Michelle Obama puts it, ‘We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own ‘to-do’ list.’
Invest in your own growth
Coaching, reading and learning, whatever fuels your self-development. This is something I work on with my clients. Whether it’s rebuilding confidence after a setback, navigating life transitions or redefining success on your terms, you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Ready to Make Yourself a Priority?
I help women like you, women who are done with feeling stuck, burnt out or like they’re just going through the motions. Through my coaching, we work together to shift the mindset blocks, silence the inner critic and create a clear, confident path forward.
So, let me ask you again: What do you need? And when will you decide that you are worth investing in?
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