Always get up: 5 ways to build resilience

Mar 20, 2024 | Wellness


When life feels difficult or throws you a curve ball, how do you react?

Do you tend to hide until the dust has settled or do you prefer to face it head on?

Personally, my default response is to deal with it because I want to continually move forward in life.

I’ve learnt that the one thing that has meant I can do this is my resilience, especially when anybody has told me no, you can’t, you shouldn’t, you’re too young, you’re too old, you’re not clever enough or you’ll never succeed.

It’s my resilience that keeps me going.

Resilience is your capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties. I will always get back up.

That’s just one of the reasons I love helping the people I work with. These individuals are going through or have gone through a life event. They’re experiencing difficulties. Divorce, redundancy, retirement, menopause, empty nest, new mum and new business owners to name a few.

They’re experiencing something that may be uncertain, unusual, uncomfortable or all of the above. Working on their resilience helps them navigate this new chapter of their life.

To be able to live the life you want and navigate life means building your resilience. Here are 5 actions you can take that will help you build yours.

Building resilience

Work on your mindset

What is going on in your mind is very powerful. After all, whether you think you can or you think you can’t you’re probably right. In other words, what you think is what you become. It’s time to pay attention to what you’re thinking.

If you’re not already, become curious about your self-talk. What is your unconscious trying to tell you? Remember, your inner voice is neither good nor bad. It’s just trying to keep you safe. Mine’s called Vera, what’s yours called?

Step outside your comfort zone 

Does it feel scary trying something new?

New means uncertainty, taking a risk and the possibility of failure.

However, it’s all about perspective and you have the power to change that. The circumstance you’re in is neutral until you give it meaning from the words that you use.

Be more mindful of the words you use. How about using language that inspires and motivates you?

Stepping outside of your comfort zone is an opportunity to learn, to grow and to be even more successful.

The more you do it the easier it will feel. Then over time, the steps will start to become bigger each time.

Take action

Doing nothing is not an option. If you want to build resilience you need to take action. 

The more you do the more confident you will become.

Taking small actions. Being consistent. That’s what builds resilience.

I always say to my daughter, I’m not asking you to climb a mountain, I’m not asking you to run a marathon. I’m just asking you to take one step.

Life, take action

Become comfortable with failing

Failure feels awful. You’ve spent so much time and effort putting something together only for it to fail.

Appreciating failure takes practice. 

I hate failing. I also know that failing is a good thing.

I remember more from my failures than I do from when I’ve succeeded.

The thing is, failing is actually success in disguise.

Failing shines a light on how things can be done better next time. And when you learn from those moments, you will be sure to make it even better next time.

Create a Supportive Network

I will always be the first to say that you need to be your biggest cheerleader and having the right people around you will magnify this. 

That’s not to say that you have lots of ‘yes’ people in your corner. It’s ensuring that you surround yourself with individuals who want you to succeed, are authentic and will tell you the truth.

Choose these people wisely. They are very precious.

What type of people do you need in your corner? 

Make sure they’re a good mix. Think about what you need from them and what you can give to them. Remember it’s about giving as much as receiving.

So I encourage you to continually work on your mindset, step outside your comfort zone, take action, fail and surround yourself with awesome people.

How are you building your resilience?


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