Why is there never enough time?
I love being busy. Getting involved with lots of projects. Organising lots of things. But being busy isn’t necessarily a good thing. Especially when it feels like there is no time.
I’m now practicing being less busy. Being more conscious of how I use my time. I’m even taking time out to think. I know, sounds like a luxury but it really isn’t.
I was finding that I literally went from one thing to another and the only time when I’d be really resting was when I was asleep! That really isn’t healthy.
So I decided to make a change. A change that I am continually practicing.
Life now feels calm and I’m present which means I’m less likely to miss out on those precious moments.
One of my main problems was my to-do list, which seems never ending when you’re a mum.
Whether it’s making sure that the washing has been done or that the kiddies’ school bags are packed or that you’ve bought a card and present for the kid’s party on the weekend. There are always things to do, which usually revolves around someone else.
It can feel like there is never enough time. Time to just stop. To look around. To decide what to do next. Time just for you!
But being busy and not having enough time doesn’t have to be your reality. You do have a choice. You can decide how best to use your time.
It’s all about letting go.
Letting go of the shoulds. Letting go of what others may think. Letting go of trying to be Supermum.
Letting go will free you and let you see more clearly.
Let’s look at it a different way. What if by being busy, you’re actually wasting time. We all do it, even if we hate to admit it. And that’s fine, as long as it’s a conscious decision.
But what if wasting time is stopping you from doing what is more important to you?
Like occasionally putting yourself first. What would that look like and feel like?
You’d have the time to recharge your batteries. You’d have the time to think. You’d have the time to decide where you’re going on this journey called life.
I know what it’s like to be stuck on the treadmill of life where there is no time to do anything other than go through the motions, adhere to the routine and tick off the items on the to-do list. But I have learnt, several times, that it is no good for my health and well-being as well as my loved ones.
Not only was I not looking after myself but I was also missing out on what was going on in front of me. I wasn’t enjoying the moments because I was distracted by what needed to happen next.
Life doesn’t have to be like this. If this resonates with you then why don’t you try the following.
Keep a time diary
Keeping track of how you spend your time, even if it’s just for one day, will show you how you spend your time. You’ll see easily what your habits are, especially your tendencies to waste time!
Invest your time in what’s important
Make a decision on what’s important to you and how you’d like to spend your time. Yes, there will be things that need to be done that you wouldn’t say are important but you’ll also be doing things that don’t need to be done and you’re just doing them because no one else is.
Offload to others
You don’t need to do everything. Ask others to help. Share the load. You may be worried that they won’t do it like you and you’re probably right but does it matter?
Set a timer
Sometimes we can spend far too long doing something because we have plenty of time. Try setting a timer to help you stay focused. You might also complete your task more quickly.
Setting healthy boundaries is a great way of protecting your time. Knowing what is and is not acceptable. A kind of agreement with yourself. Then share it with others so they can support you.
How you use your time is within your control. You don’t have to do everything. Not everything that is on your list has to be done by you. If having more time is important to you then take the first step to change things.
How are you using your time?
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