Who will you be loving on Valentine’s day?

Feb 12, 2020

Have you booked a restaurant? Are you having a romantic meal at home? Are you confused by all these questions?

In a couple of days, it will be Valentine’s Day. The day when apparently, couples show love by showering each other with cards, gifts and a romantic meal. Or do they?

I think Valentine’s Day is like marmite. You either love it or hate it.

A single life

When I was single I was obviously a hater. That might be a bit harsh. But it’s fair to say I wasn’t a fan. I didn’t want to be reminded of something that I didn’t have. For 364 days of the year, I would be blissfully ignorant. Well sort of. And on just one day it would be in my face. Couples showing each other how much they love each other, showering each other with stuff to prove their love.

Having said that I had a wonderful friend who for a long time would exchange cards with me. A gesture that warmed my heart and made me feel special. The baton was handed over when hubby came onto the scene. A little confession, I was single for nearly all of my adult life up until I met hubby at 31. So, I did my fair share of waiting. 

Too commercial?

Now, I do have friends who don’t buy into the Valentine’s thing because it’s so commercial. They see it as the commercial world making money from a beautiful simple thing. Love. Something that’s been hyped up to make money. Love doesn’t happen on just one day. Love is for always. I get it. Of course, love shouldn’t be stored up until the 14th February. Love should be spontaneous. Love is unconditional. 

But what about the romantics who enjoy spoiling each other a little bit more on Valentine’s Day. Or the partners who know that they need to make an extra effort on Valentine’s Day. Taking the opportunity to shower their loved ones with cards, presents and the traditional nice meal out.

Here’s the history……

So where does Valentine’s Day come from? According to Google, obviously, it’s to do with Saint Valentine, a catholic priest, who secretly performed marriage ceremonies for Roman soldiers as it had been made illegal sometime in the 3rd Century. Back then the Emperor thought that Roman soldiers should be devoted to Rome only. Can you imagine? Anyway, he was found out and jailed. He was eventually executed on 14th February.

It wasn’t until a couple of hundred years later that 14th February became St Valentine’s Day. But that’s not the end. Romance and love didn’t come into it until the 14th Century by the poet Chaucer. And eventually, in the 18th Century, it had evolved into an occasion more like what we know today. History lesson over.

A gentle reminder

And me. I hold my hands up. I’m a romantic. I’ve always been a romantic. My way of showing people I love them is by feeding them. Something to do with my Greek roots! And giving my loved ones the occasional nice gift. Nothing expensive but personal.

Life is hectic. Life with children is hectic. It’s so easy to get so wrapped up in parenting that being a couple starts to fall further down the list of priorities. That’s why Valentine’s Day is great. It’s a reminder that I’m part of an amazing double act. That I’m blessed to be part of a duo. And I’m going to cherish that. Of course, we don’t leave showing each other that we love each other for just that one day but that one day is for us. Maybe it’s because I’m a Taurus. Maybe it’s because of my Mediterranean roots. Maybe it’s because I’m a female. Maybe it’s because I just love love. All I know is that I’m a Valentine’s Day supporter. That means I look forward to getting some flowers and a card.

So, on Valentine’s Day, we’ll be ordering a takeaway and drinking some prosecco followed by a cuddle on the sofa. Just the way I like it.

That’s ‘Who will you be loving on Valentine’s day?’ according to Mummy on a Break.

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