What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
I love this question. Why? Because it permits us to dream knowing that it’s safe to dream.
I think I would write a #7ingredientschallenge cookbook. Probably design and build my own home. Travel the world with nothing planned other than the first flight! My list is pretty short at the moment but not for long.
Now, if I asked you this question but slightly differently, I know your answer would be different. Consider how your thoughts and feelings would change if I asked, what’s your biggest dream? What do you want to achieve in your life?
Our answers change because subconsciously we then limit ourselves to what we know is possible. All of a sudden, we develop a kind of ‘tunnel vision’ so that we can only see what we’re comfortable with.
The reason is simple, fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of being judged. Fear of failure.
The truth is, the only thing holding us back from the art of the possible is ourselves. It’s that simple. The rest are just excuses. Excuses that make not doing something legitimate.
Here are my tips for using fear to help and motivate you.
Understand the fear to see if it’s real
A great place to start, is to actually understand the fear in the first place. Why are you frightened? Why is it holding you back? Is it real or are you making assumptions?
Uncover the truth of the fear
Is there something deeper that has created this fear? Is there a belief that you’ve been living by that has created this fear? Maybe something you were told as a child or something that happened to you when you were younger.
Something that happened to me when I was a teenager, was that a family friend laughed at me when I made a mistake whilst speaking Greek. My family are Greek and so it’s my second language. From that moment on, I refused to speak to anyone in Greek for fear of making a mistake. The thing is, after a long time I realised that the fear was actually people laughing at me not the fact that I’d made a mistake.
Take action to remove the fear
Instead of letting the fear hold you back be assertive and take action. Is there a way of removing the fear? Can you face the fear head on?
Reframe the fear
Instead of seeing the situation as something negative make it positive and something to look forward to. For example, if you are giving a speech, instead of focusing on all the elements of the speech that are frightening you focus on the good. The fact that you have an opportunity to spread your message that you are passionate about. That it is excitement and not fear at the thought of speaking.
Focus on the positive outcomes
Focus on how you will feel once you’ve completed whatever you’re frightened of. For example, if you’re taking your driving test, what does that actually mean? You’ll have the freedom to drive wherever you want without relying on someone else to take you or being limited by public transport. Think about where you would go on your first trip and what you’d do.
So next time someone asks you, what would you do if you couldn’t fail take it as an opportunity to think big. To let your imagination run free. To dream beyond your wildest dreams. Then take the next step and start to make them a reality.
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