Six reasons why forgiving is good for you

Sep 30, 2020


It’s so easy to hold onto things from our past. Hold onto the pain that someone has inflicted on us. And there may even be some circumstances where the pain actually brings us comfort.

Now, I don’t need to tell you that holding onto those feelings is no good for us. I don’t need to tell you that it actually stops us from living life. You know that.

The problem is, forgiving someone is hard. It’s like we’re saying what you did is okay. But what if I gave you an alternative perspective? The truth is forgiveness starts and ends with you. It’s not about the other person.

Forgiveness is about making the decision to release the feelings of resentment towards someone. The feelings that you’re holding onto that are actually causing you pain.

Let go

Oprah Winfrey has some great advice on how to forgive so that you can move on and be free. She says,

“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different, it’s accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.”

But what about those situations where all you want is revenge, as you feel resentment towards someone else, and so you hold onto those feelings more tightly. But what does that really achieve? To quote Nelson Mandela,

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies”.

If the words from Oprah and Mandela haven’t persuaded you then here are my six reasons why you should release those negative feelings and forgive.

It’s not good for your health

Storing up all those negative emotions is actually bad for your health. And the longer you hold onto those emotions the more likely you will see them manifest themselves in your body physically. It’s your body’s way of talking to you and getting you to let go.

It will stop you from moving forward

Holding onto those negative feelings and thoughts act as a brick wall and keeps you in the past. Not being able to let go of what has happened creates a trigger in you. Then every time something happens that reminds you, of the event or the person, will trigger those negative feelings keeping you locked in this vicious cycle. And locked in that moment.

It allows you to maintain a victim mindset

Nobody likes to be the victim and not being able to let go puts you firmly in that position. However, being able to let go and move on helps you to get out of that mindset. It allows you to see things more clearly instead of through cloudy lenses.

It stops you from living life

If holding onto these feelings is trapping you in the past then how do you expect to be fully living life. From fully enjoying the present and everything that now has to offer.

living life

You hand your power over to someone else

By fixating on the negative, we can actually hand over the power to heal to someone else. When the truth is, only we have the power to heal ourselves, forgive and move on.

It stops you from being happy

It’s difficult to experience happiness if you have these underlying negative feelings. You may be enjoying a joyful moment when one of your triggers is set off. Adding a sour slant to a positive experience.

It’s not easy to forgive and especially when you’ve held onto the feelings for a very long time. However, forgiveness has nothing to do with anyone but you. You have the power to release the negativity and move on. To free yourself from the emotions that are holding you back.

Are you ready to forgive?


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