One change leads to another

Jan 22, 2020

Since 2017, I’ve experienced a lot of change. Some I’ve instigated. The rest is just life. The thing is, change is inevitable. It’s not worth fighting it as that’s just starting a losing battle. Instead, it’s about managing it. That way you’re ready to at least be open to enjoying the journey plus something exciting might come from it. 

You see change doesn’t have to be bad. Even if you think it’s being done to you. It’s all about perspective. It’s all about the possibilities that might come.

Apparently, there are 7 stages to change.

It all starts with the initial anxiety of the unknown and the potential fear of the change. I suppose it’s like when you get on a rollercoaster for the first time not really knowing what’s going to happen. Some people love it and love being scared. Others not so much and just avoid it.

Then there’s the ‘I’m not changing’ and eventually the ‘oh it’s here to stay so I better enjoy it’ which means by stage 7 you’ve accepted it

For me, my need to change my work situation triggered a lot of other change. Some of which was a decisive action. Some of which was simply a reaction.

Doing something about my wellness, both mentally and physically, was a bit of both.

It was definitely getting me down. You see, I’d sort of lost my purpose. My sense of self. Not unusual for a mum with small children. Although on the outside, nobody would have noticed.

When you’re mentally and physically strong, dealing with life is so much easier. When I was younger I was so active. I had plenty of energy. But in my late thirties, I was feeling sluggish and tired. I had no desire to do anything, as I felt I had just enough energy for the day’s demands.

This wasn’t that different for my mental strength. My inner voice, Vera, at times became very vocal. And so, it was easier to listen then tell her to put a sock in it.

But it all came to a head at the end of 2018, the year I started my new business. It was a hard year. I worked really hard. I had spread myself too thinly. I knew that I needed to take action, otherwise, I was going to crumble. And I wasn’t going to let that happen.

I did two things.

First, I took advantage of a prize we’d won in a raffle. Three months of free membership to a kick boxing club. Oh, my goodness. I knew at the end of the first session this was exactly what I needed. An opportunity to get rid of any stresses. In a controlled environment. Plus, I loved it. It was fun. It still is fun.

Second, I went on a compassion course. To help me fix me! The thing is. I wasn’t “broken”. None of us are. But, what’s really important is being compassionate to ourselves. Treating ourselves kindly. Being our own best friend. Our own cheerleader.

And this is what I’ve built into an element of my online course. Some questions. Some tips. Some guidance. To help mums make the necessary changes to become physically and mentally stronger. To help stop being able to just deal with life. And actually enjoy the ride, especially when life throws a curveball.

That’s ‘One change leads to another?” according to Mummy on a Break.

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