Have you come to a fork in the road?
There will be times in life when we need to make some big decisions. Ones that literally stop us from moving forward until we have made a choice.
My question is, what action do you take?
Do you avoid making a decision and hope that it will sort itself out?
Do you pray that someone else will decide so that you don’t have to deal with the consequences?
Do you take the easy option because it is less painful and at least a decision has been made?
These actions may get you moving again but only temporarily. Taking these types of actions cannot ultimately make you happy. Taking these actions do not actually resolve anything, they just act as a delay tactic.
One of the biggest decisions of my life was to take voluntary redundancy from Rolls-Royce having worked there for 17 years. I’d had a great career with lots of amazing opportunities. But returning to Rolls-Royce, after baby number 2, just didn’t feel like the right decision. I’d come to the fork in my career road!
My decision was, should I return, knowing that I didn’t really want to, or should I do something different?
For me, deciding was really easy, mainly because I’d been thinking about it for a very long time. I knew that I needed to make the right decision for me and becoming a mum was a great reminder of that fact. If I want my children to be able to choose the right path for them then it starts with me showing them that I’m choosing the right path for me.
Life certainly changes in so many ways when you become a mum. We can either choose to be swept along by whatever will be will be. Or, we can take the bull by the horns and make life what we want it to be.
I decided that this was my time to do something different, which ultimately lead me to getting off the corporate bus.
So, how does it feel when you come to that crossroads in life?
Are you distracted by what others may think of your decision?
Do you become indecisive and feel like you’re just going around in circles?
Or, do you focus on what’s right for you?
Being faced with a big decision doesn’t have to be difficult. It’s about focusing on what matters and that is making the right decision for you now knowing what you know.
There is no point wishing you had a crystal ball. There is no point in worrying about making the ‘right’ decision. There is no point being held back by what others may think.
Instead, use your time and energy and focus on what you want to happen next.
Take time for your decisions
Give yourself some space to consider where you’re at and where you want to be. There is no need to hurry, although this is not an excuse to procrastinate either. If it helps, give yourself a timeframe by which you will have made your decision.
Understand your options
Make sure you fully understand what your options are. If you don’t know find out. It’s important that you make a decision with your eyes open and not with the blinkers on.
Right for you
Only you know which path is right for you. Others may want to advise you, which is kind, but they are coming at it from their perspective. No one has travelled the same path as you and therefore you know what’s best for you. You know the answer deep down. Remember, what’s right for you may not be the easiest path but it will lead you to where you want to go.
Thinking and reflecting is great but at some point you need to act. What is your first step? It’s doesn’t have to be a grand gesture it just needs to get you started in the direction you want to travel.
Ask for help
And don’t forget, you can ask for guidance. Someone who will ask you questions that will help you to help yourself. The right person can help you to find the answers that you are looking for.
When the time is right you will make the decision that is right for you and it will feel easy. Dig deep, find your courage and take action.
Have you reached a fork in your road?
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