Don’t forget the fun stuff
Do you ever wonder where children get their energy from? It doesn’t matter what time of day it is my kiddies always have bags of energy. Well, except for when we’re on our way back from a family day trip and the car motion has gently rocked them to sleep. Then without fail as soon as we’re back home they spring into life.
My explanation is that they have a zest for life. They want to take advantage of every waking hour. They haven’t got the baggage that adults have. There isn’t that voice inside their heads telling them that they’re tired.
As a mum to two young children, for a while, I was listening to that tired voice.
My day would start with me dragging myself out of bed. Not quite ready to get up. I would then sometimes go through the day in a trance. Helping myself to the odd caffeine loaded coffee to help me wake up. After a hard day’s work, the kiddies would then come home bouncing off the walls. Full of high spirits. Wanting to play before their wind down. So, by the time they were in bed I was nearly ready to also go to bed. Exhausted from the day’s activities. Instead, I’d just be slumped on the sofa. Gormlessly watching television until it was a reasonable time to actually go to bed!
But this all changed at the end of last year.
It wasn’t a lightning bolt. It was gradually building up over a few months. I realised that although I’d got off the corporate bus I still felt like a slave to the treadmill of life. I realised that I wanted to make more changes.
By getting off the corporate bus I’d made the first step to taking control. But that wasn’t it. I’d changed just one element of my life. The practical part. The serious part. But what about making life fun. What about having fun? My children and husband are my priorities but it’s also about putting me first.
Doing the things that make you happy. Doing the things that are just for you. Remember this is about you the individual. Not you in your other roles. Not the mum, the wife, the worker. Just you. It’s not being selfish. It’s you looking after you in the same way you look after others.
If you don’t know what the fun stuff is for you then the best place to start is your childhood. What were the things you enjoyed doing as a child? What were your hobbies and interests? Or, there might be new things you want to try. Now’s the time. Go for it.
But I’m too tired
I use to think I was too tired. I’d look at hubby and I was envious that he still had the energy to do stuff that he enjoyed once we put the kiddies to bed. I wondered why he wasn’t as tired as me. It’s really quite simple. If you’re doing something you enjoy you will not feel too tired. Even now he’ll stay up until the early morning to get that perfect night time shot of the stars and the moon.
I had a bit of a revelation. The things that were missing actually energised me once I bought them back into my life.
- I love music. Whether it’s playing a tune on the piano. Singing along to some cheesy tunes. Dancing like nobody’s watching. Or just listening to my favourite tracks. A great way of relieving stress and letting out my emotions. And simply having fun.
- I enjoy spending time with friends and family. Arranging coffee catch ups. Or family day trips. I love the company of others.
- I need to exercise. I regularly go to the gym. I also train twice a week for kickboxing. It’s a great way to start the day. It’s a great way to wind down the day. It’s a great way to focus on the here and now and drown out the noise of the day.
- And finally, I love food. I’m in danger of repeating myself. But I love eating it, cooking it and talking about it. I’m a homecook who loves to feed people. That’s how I show love.
It’s up to me to bring the fun stuff into my life. I could just go through the motions. I could just make sure that everyone else is okay.
But how would that make me feel?
At this point, I need to point out that this doesn’t mean that every day is full of joy. I’m human. There are days where frankly fun is at the bottom of my list. The point I’m trying to make is that I’m now making a conscious decision to do something. That’s the difference. No more excuses. No waiting for someone to change things. I’m changing things. After all, it’s in my hands.
That’s don’t forget the fun stuff according to Mummy on a Break
Are you doing the fun stuff?
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