Are you living your best life?

Oct 16, 2019

As far as I’m concerned, we only get one life. Not only do we get just one. But it’s pretty short. Sorry to break it to you. So, I’m trying to make it count. 

Now, it’s not like I woke up one morning and decided this. It’s taken a little while to get to this point. Plus, it takes practice. Continuous practice. And I’m still practicing. After all, I’m a regular individual. Like you, I have low moments. Times when I miss an opportunity. The point is I’m trying my best and that’s what counts. 

So what does ‘living my best life’ look like?

For me, it’s this.

Work

I never intended on starting my own business and now that I’m here I have no intention of going back to being an employee. Well unless this business really doesn’t work and I have no choice. I would never jeopardise my family’s security. However, in case you’re in any doubt, I don’t plan on failing. Even if I have to try one hundred times.

I’m at a point where I enjoy what I’m doing. Yes, there are times when it’s a challenge. When I’m not sure where I’m heading. When I feel like I’m banging my head against a brick wall. When it feels like all the hardwork is getting me nowhere. But I believe this is what I’m supposed to be doing. And that’s the point.

If you’ve managed to get it right, when it comes to work, then it will feel right. It’s unlikely that you’ll suffer the Sunday night blues or that Monday morning feeling. The working week will not fill you with dread. Alternatively, you’ve decided that work is just a means to an end and so as long as it’s paying the bills and it funds a good life outside of work then that’s good too. 

Relationships

Relationships are so important to me. Being without my relationships would be like being starved of air. For me, it starts with my family.

My children put everything into perspective. Just watching them can lift my mood when I’m not feeling very motivated. They’re also at that age where literally I blink and they’ve grown ridiculously. I don’t want to look back in 20 years and regret not spending enough time with them. 

Similarly, without my hubby I wouldn’t, firstly, be able to raise our children and, secondly, I wouldn’t have been able to start my own business. Yes, I’m my own person. But it’s so nice having someone to share life with. Someone who is honest, loving and supportive. 

I’m all about spending time with family and friends who I know give me energy. Who want the best for me. And vice versa.

Why would you waste time spending time with people who are not your supporters? That just seems crazy. Yes, you may feel obliged. Yes, you may have to. But in all honesty, why would you? Okay, that might be harsh. So instead, think of it this way. Try making a conscious decision on how you manage your relationships. This is your life. So do what’s best for you and those you love the most. 

Money Matters

I learned from a very young age the value of money. Working in my parents’ seaside restaurant was the best training ground. And so, since my early twenties, I’ve consciously managed my money. Whether it’s looking for the best deal. Investing it wisely. Or just enjoying it. And I’m now at a point that I know what is possible both in the short term and the long term. I feel financially secure.

Money doesn’t have to be the limiting factor to living your best life. It’s about planning. It’s about being creative. It’s about knowing what is possible. 

Wellness

For a long time, I really had no idea. My focus was on making sure that everyone else was okay. My focus was on working hard. Physically I was okay, I suppose, although exhausted. Mentally, I was drained. Now I know differently. You can’t function on an empty tank.

That’s why exercise is so important to me. I love my kickboxing sessions. It gets me moving. It helps to focus my mind. Whereas the gym allows me to vent. It’s my opportunity to sort things out in my head whilst exercising! Plus the added bonus is I feel fighting fit and more than able to keep up with my kids when they want to play. 

Then there’s my mental wellbeing. Life is busy. There are so many things going on. Life feels more stressful and I need to be strong enough to deal with the pressures of daily life. So I’m very disciplined when it comes to my mental wellbeing. I practice mindfulness, visualisation and gratitude. And I like a good old natter. Whatever I need to release my stresses and feel present. Rather than bogged down in all the noise.

The Fun Stuff

I think life wasn’t fun for a while. I was stuck on what I like to call the treadmill of life. I was locked into a routine and I didn’t even know it. All I knew was that I was tired. I was busy. I was just existing. Not living. 

Life should be fun. So I started to change things. I’m doing more of what I love. Spending time with my family and friends. Cooking. Doing things for just me.

I’ll say it again. We only get one life so make it count. There’s no point in getting to 75 and having regrets. Wishing you did x, y and z. By then it might be too late. 

‘Sing like no one’s listening, love like you’ve never been hurt, dance like nobody’s watching and live like it’s heaven on earth.’ Mark Twain

That’s ‘Are you living your best life’ according to Mummy on a Break.

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